My best friend is getting married and I%26#039;m hosing the bridal shower. Her and her fiance have been living together for 8 years and have everything they could need for the house. She suggested gift certificates only and a honeymoon themed wishing well. Does anyone have any tactful wording for the invitation to suggest gift certificates only?
Hosting a gift certificate only bridal shower, need wording help for invitation.?
Despite what the majority of the answers say, having a Themed Shower is perfectly acceptable. This is becoming a growing trend among brides. As times change so do traditions. There are many web sites out there have advice, tips and invitation wording for these type of showers. Have fun and definitely go for it. It sounds wonderful to me.
%26quot;A No Gift Shower%26quot;
BRIDE
and
GROOM
are soon to be wed
You are invited to a
Wedding Shower for the couple
on DAY, YEAR
at TIME
Mr. and Mrs. HOST%26#039;S home
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE
Please R.s.v.p. by DATE
PHONE No
When guests RSVP explain the idea about the gift certificates and the honeymoon. It may be easier to get the point across that way then in writing.
Hosting a gift certificate only bridal shower, need wording help for invitation.?
i think you are totally right about this.. why buy someone things they really don%26#039;t want? Report It
Other Replys:Just make a note on the invite that the bride would appreciate gift certificates from ______ store or website in lieu of other items. Just keep it totally simple!
Other Replys:It%26#039;s generally considered tacky to mention gifts at all on an invite to anything, so you%26#039;ll have to let guests know by word of mouth. Request that they call or email you to RSVP, and when you talk with them or email them back to confirm, then you can mention, %26quot;Oh, by the way, the couple isn%26#039;t registered anywhere, but if you%26#039;d like to send them something, they are hoping for gift certificates or contributions to the honeymoon.%26quot;
There are some wedding websites that offer secure online transactions, if people want to donate cash to the honeymoon. Or try Paypal. If you set up a website, include some general information about the shower, and then put the link to the website on the invite (so it doesn%26#039;t seem like gifts are a condition of their invitation).
Other Replys:The whole point of a bridal shower is for her to open gifts. Tell her to get off her ars and register for a few things... sorry but everyone needs a couple new things like towels, sheets... etc... If she ask for gift certs to certain stores- tell her to register for those things.. Like we have lived together for years and we still would like new patio furniture and some different camping stuff!! You can%26#039;t ask for gift certs... if she REALLY DOES HAVE EVERYTHING... then ask for donates for a local charity.
Other Replys:People tend to get offended when you choose their gifts for them, so I can understand why wording would be important in this situation. Maybe you could say something like, %26quot;Please consider choosing a gift certificate while picking out your gift.%26quot; For the most part, you%26#039;ve put yourself in a very awkward situation. The reason it%26#039;s so hard to come up with a tactful way to say it is because it%26#039;s sort of an untactful thing to do. Where did you come up with the idea? Maybe you heard about someone else doing it? Maybe you could ask them for a copy of their invitations.
Other Replys:That is pretty tacky. They have everything they need for the house and still want people to spend money on them? Whatever happened to the joy of just celebrating the occasion with friends and loved ones? Or have the people donate to charities in their names?
Other Replys:when people ask what she would like then you can mention she really would just like gift certificates to wherever. But don%26#039;t put it on the invties - sorry you can%26#039;t choose what people will give to you as a gift - that%26#039;s kinda tacky and rude.
Other Replys:Eight years and they are just getting married? I never understand how women get themselves into these relationships and allow men to string them along for so far. Anyway, you can simply word it as %26quot;in lieu of gifts, the bride respectfully requests gift certificates or you can make a donation to their honeymoon by doing %26quot;however they want it handled%26quot;%26quot;.
Other Replys:They should register for things they;%26#039;ll need for a honeymoon, like new luggage, or digital camera, or stuff like that...you could state, that instead of things to furnish their new home, they%26#039;d love something to take on their honeymoon to Hawaii. If they want gift cards, they are presumably gong shopping with them, so why can%26#039;t they register for the gifts, unless they plan on using them to buy gifts for other people (birthdays, etc).
I can%26#039; tell you, I%26#039;d be put off by that, and I do not give gift cards as gifts. I give actual gifts.
Other Replys:A shower for a bride is to shower the bride with gifts for her new life. If they%26#039;ve been living together for eight years, a shower really isn%26#039;t the way to go. Why not have a party, like a Jack and Jill, inviting everybody to celebrate the union, not shower them with gifts. Simply write that it%26#039;s a party, not a shower, but if they desire to extend their generosity to the future bride and groom, gift certificates at XYZ Store(s) or donations to XYZ Travel Agency for their honeymoon are appreciated.
Other Replys:The whole point of a bridal shower is to shower the bride-to-be with gifts to help her and her new husband set up their household together.
If they have been living together for 8 years and %26quot;have everything they need for the house,%26quot; to have a shower and ask for more is just plain tacky and greedy. And to make matters worse, she wants a shower where she%26#039;s telling people what to buy her?! I am sorry. That is RUDE.
If I were invited to that, I would not only not come, I would throw all etiquette out the window and not send a gift, either.
Other Replys:Every answer here is pretty much ON target. The point of the shower is for the bride to receive household items to start her married life. If they are together 8 years and already %26quot;have everything%26quot; it does not entitle the bride to %26quot;choose something else.%26quot; Next thing you know, people will say %26quot;In lieu of gifts, please contribute to our mortgage/car payment.%26quot; If she truly has everything she needs it is extremely gift grabby and presumptuous to be having a shower at all. As someone else suggested, why not just have an informal party to celebrate their upcoming marriage? Anyway, the bottom line is, you shouldn%26#039;t be mentioning gifts at all in an invitation. You won%26#039;t find any cute poems or appropriate wording in any etiquette book, because it isn%26#039;t a proper thing to do. I can almost feel the weird vibe that will be coming from the guests at the shower....wow..let%26#039;s watch the bride open..oh..another gift card.
Other Replys:I have to agree with everyone else, too. If they really do have everything they need, suggest they make donations to charities instead? The honeymoon wishing well is a nice touch...maybe just do that for the gift theme.
Can you imagine someone just opening up bunches of envelopes...then all of the guests will know how much others spent, and so will the bride.
Sounds like a recipe for awkward moments.
Other Replys:There is no tactful wording for this, and it should not be done. It was horrible of her to have suggested it! It%26#039;s just not acceptable. If she wants NO gifts, then have no shower. The total purpose of having a bridal shower is for people to help out by giving little gifts that will help the couple get set up in their home. So have no shower, or have a shower, and let it be a normal one where people give gifts of their choice.
Gee, do we have to guess what she%26#039;s going to try to write for the wedding invitation????
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